I was recently invited to a friend’s wedding, but my partner was left off the invitation. I realise that it’s expensive running a wedding these days, but I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years now, both the bride and groom know him, and I found it really insulting that they didn’t ask him. I am thinking of declining as I would rather stay home than go without him. What would you do?
Angela, by email
The choice is yours. You can decline the invitation and create ill feeling and a bit of a drama because you aren’t coming and they will feel they have insulted you. Or you can just get over it, go along and have a lovely time celebrating your friends’ wedding. It is indeed very expensive hosting a wedding these days, and I’m sure that there are others who have not been invited with partners, so I would just go with the flow and try to be more understanding.
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